top poker sites? suggestions?

ok so i’ve been trying to find suggestions for top poker sites and this is way more confusing than i expected. every site claims they’re the best, safest, biggest, fastest payouts, etc, but once you start reading comments it’s all over the place. some people say stick to the big brands only, others say smaller rooms are softer games. i’m not even sure what matters more anymore, traffic, rake, software or withdrawals actually showing up.

i mostly play low to mid stakes, sometimes tournaments, sometimes cash, nothing serious. i just don’t want bots everywhere or waiting 20 minutes for a table. also bonuses look cool but half of them feel useless unless you grind nonstop.

so yeah, genuinely asking which are the top poker sites what are people actually using right now and not just promoting. if you’ve played recently and had a normal experience, no drama, decent games, let me know. trying to avoid wasting time and money hopping around randomly.